Posts Tagged ‘Operate Out Of Love For Others’


I have been presented this Prestigious Award by Jayne of Dairy Incarnate

The dictionary definition of Thank You: a polite expression used when acknowledging a gift, service, or compliment, or accepting or refusing an offer.


My Friend, My Fellow Sister, Jayne;

Thank You doesn’t express the Gratitude I feel by Your Gift and Friendship.


 Here are the rules:

1. Thank the person who nominated you and post a link to their blog on your blog.✔️

2. Display the award on your blog by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”.✔️

3. Answer 11 questions about yourself which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.✔️

                                                                             4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.✔️

5. Nominate 5 – 11 blogs you feel deserve this award, who have less than 1000 followers.✔️

6. Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer. ✔️

7. List these rules on your post.✔️

Once you have written published it, you then have to:

8. Inform people/blogs that they have been nominated for the Liebster Award and provide a link for them to your post so they can learn about it (they might not have heard of it!) ✔️


Questions By Jayne:

  1. Do you collect anything and what is it?  Yes. Angels, Fairies, Cats, Metaphysical related tools i.e. Crystals & Stones, Herbs, Candles, Books.

2. What trait do you have that irritates other people? Mmmm.. I know what traits I have that Irritates Hubby and the Kids. Without sounded like the “Perfect Angel” I really can’t recall anyone ever saying “When you do xxx that irritates me.”  When I’m frustrated (which seems to be an ongoing feeling) about let say the phone bill. I’ll call and express my displeasure of the service or charge. I may initially exhibit a tone in my voice, and by the end of the call I will apologize to the representative for sounding kurt or rude after they have been patient and courteous with me.

3. What type of person are you at a friendly party? Is this a Swinger’s Party, a Casual Get Together, or Family Related?  I would say I’m out going. I will walk up to a guest and introduce myself, and start a conversation.

4.  What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? 1. I want to drift our 300Z at high speeds on a mountain along a winding road that over looks the ocean. Failing would be loosing control and driving over the side and ending up on the “Other Side”. (We don’t live where there are mountains, although I do live very close to the ocean without the narrow winding road)

2. Intentionally be defibrillated go into cardiac arrest to visit the “Other Side”, and then be successfully resuscitated without any complication or injury to my heart or brain. To experience the journey of death, and be able to share my experience when I return to this dimension.

5.  What sense would you give up if you had to? I’m a smoker so sadly my sense of Taste and Smell is not that of one who has never smoked. Sorry didn’t really answer the question…

6.  What was your favorite toy when you were a little kid? Colorforms Love Dolls Mattel Sunshine Family Dolls

7. Do you have a weird memory from when you were a kid?  Sharing Very Personal Info: When I was 8 or 9 I was inappropriately touched and had another sexual act done to me, not penetration. This inappropriate behavior was by a neighbor who was then had to be in his 50’s, and lived in the same apartment complex.  I knew it wasn’t right but I remember it felt good. After that occurred I made a point to never see this man again. I never told my parents. Weirdly, I don’t consider myself to have been molested, or sexually assaulted. This never affected my sexuality, relationships nor my self-esteem.

8. Do you believe that open toed high heels are inappropriate attire for a female to wear to work? No. I personally don’t care for wearing any open toe style shoes.

9. Do you know or have you heard of any women that wake up and pee in the shower when they are  getting “dressed and ready” in the morning? Yes Me, when Hubby is on the Throne, and I can’t make it to the 2nd bathroom. 

10. Can you tell me about one of the most beautiful vistas you have ever seen? Many, many, many moons ago. One night while driving home from visiting the Chicago Aquarium. We were listening to N.P.R. there were no other radio stations other than religious or country music available. As we began to listen to this incredible music by Hearts Of Space. We entered into a Lightening Storm. As the music played the night sky lit from one horizon to another. We had entered into a dimension where music and energy were in rhythm. We were in awe by listening to the music while being treated to this light show provided by the universe. Words can’t possibly describe this Once In A Life Time Experience. To have seen the Intensity of this Light show in combination with the most beautiful musical accompaniment was beyond seeing any laser/music show. 220px-Lightnings_sequence_2_animation

     I don’t recall the title of the song we listened to that night. I wanted to share a piece of this beautiful music.

11. If you could instantly have another education and full range of knowledge about a subject mater that would put you in a career you can’t have right this moment, what would it be? Law to attain my degree as an Attorney, and then to retain a seat as Circuit Judge.


11 Random Facts About Me

1. I enjoy Connecting and Interacting with the Blogger’s, Writer’s, and Author’s in our community.

2. I believe there is a “Spiritual Life” after death, and our Loved Ones that have passed over Watch, Protect and Guide us.

3. I see images of people, animals, eyes, and orbs in  “everyday” photos.

4. I’m seeking a “Female Lover” for us to have a “Triad” marital relationship.

5. In a year (I) We will be  “Empty Nest” Parents. I’m feeling a lot of mixed emotions. I’m savoring every minute of time I have left with our youngest, feeling very sad, and enlightened that Hubby and I will venture into the next phase of our lives. (and be able to express myself vocally in the heat of passion without a bang on the wall)

6. I’m frustrated about My Life and not being able to Live it to the Fullest. (Pain management issues)

7. Although our marital  journey has had many ups and downs, after 24 years we are Deeply In Love with each other.

8. I’m Truly Married to My Soul Mate.

9. The medications I take numb my ability to venture into my creative mind, and that Frustrates Me.

10. I wished I had the gift of writing like All of the Amazing People I follow.

11. I’m a “sucker” for the reality show on Bravo  “The Housewives of N.Y.”, Orange County, B.H., and N.J.


And The Award Goes To:

Tag! You’re It! Pass it on or simply enjoy, as if it were a box of Godiva Chocolates.

Arianna of

Killingdanse of


Alice of

Jennifer of


KDaddy of

Steve & 1Hotwife of


H.H. & Lola of

Master & Princess of


The Elite Vixens of

John of


Fatal of


Per The Rules I’m to Create 10 Questions For Those I Have Awarded:

1. If you could be any animal, what animal would you be ?

2. If You acquired a boat what would You name her?

3. What is your favorite smell?

4. Would you ever live outside your comfort zone for 30 days? (whatever that interpretation means to you. i.e. no technology, no television, living in a shelter or without electricity) Please Share

5. Do you have any phobias?

6. What’s the Most dangerous thing You have done?

7. What is your Astrological sign, and do you feel you possess those characteristics?

8. Do you believe that the color of a room affects your mood? What color(s) soothes you.

9. Do you donate blood?

10. If you could be the opposite sex for 30 days would you?


 The Other Woman

 She knows well enough

to respect me.

She knows better than

to ignore me.

I like her in her own right.

I tell myself we should be friends,

not just because it will be easier

but also because it’s

so rare to find

anyone who

gets me

and gets him too.

I could use more friends like her.

And I gather, so could she.


 Men are not just scraps of meat,

over which we

think we must fight,

only to hurt ourselves

in the process.

We do not need to fight

over this man.

We are not bitches,

but we can share

the bone

like sisters.

With a common agenda

there is much

we can do

together to further

our own needs.

So much energy

wasted either in subterfuge,


or intervention.

Better to get it out

and get on with it

than to


in the shadow

of denial

or self-deception.

She knows

I saw him first,

and I know

she won’t be the last

to notice him.

She also knows

that when I

follow my nature,

there will be times I will be glad

she will be there for him,

allowing me to take my leave

when and as I choose

when the glove is on the other hand.


She is the perfect

Other Woman.

She knows

what it is like

to walk in my shoes

and what hurts

as well as what feels good

if she will just let it.

I understand her completely


I have been her

for him

when someone else was me,

and I wanted to be honest

and remain her friend,

but such was not to be.


And now,

as I prepare to take my leave

to explore,

to experience

something new

with someone new

I realize that once again

I am the Other Woman

just as much as she is me.

I want to have so much

in common with this

enlightened woman

who sees me as I am,

accepts me,

even encourages me

to help find pleasure

with this man

she loves so much,

I can’t help



for the way


she loves him.

If women

of uncommon


found their friends

from among

their lovers’


they would never find themselves


or friendless


I am the Other Woman

just as much as she is me.


A Loving Heart is the Truest Wisdom

A Loving Heart is the Truest Wisdom


*This post has been Changed from its Original Writting and Format*

Original Post by By Dan Chiras

One of the most important lesson I’ve learned in life, I learned from my Friend, Husband, Lover, and Playmate.

A quote from novelist Charles Dickens,  “A Loving Heart Is The Truest Wisdom.”  Although it seemed brilliant, and I was drawn to it, the quote created cognitive dissonance in me.

My logical mind said: How could A Loving Heart Be The Truest Wisdom?

Love is an emotion.

 Wisdom is a cerebral function, the antithesis of emotion.

Whereas love can be foolish and blind, even outright stupid, wisdom is intelligent, clear-eyed, and directed. Love happens; wisdom is gained through experiences that lead us to deeper understandings, to knowledge as to what is right and wrong. Wise individuals are guided by knowledge, not led down blind alleys by emotion. Wisdom and love could not be farther apart, which meant they could not be one and the same, as Dickens suggests.

Over a very short period of time, I began to realize that love and wisdom are related — very closely related. By my observations, and experiences positive and negative love can inform logic. It can make us Wiser.

As A Mother of 3 Adult Men. My Partner of 22 years of Marriage. a Wise, and Loving Man who has been around the block more times than I could count. I see with great Clarity that a Loving Heart is indeed the Truest form of Wisdom.

I began to understand the relationship between Love and Wisdom more deeply as I watched my Husband. Soul Provider to care for his family. Fantastic Father, and more importantly Friend to his Adult Children.

I can see in My Children’s eyes that they’re profoundly committed to their Dad. They’ve developed into Independent, and Responsible Young Adults in our society.  I’d like to believe that through our Inspiration and Love, our Children are the Wonderful People they are today.

It is now clear too me: if we Operate Out Of Love For Others, the Quality of our Lives can Soar to New Heights.

My Shattered Heart. The broken jagged pieces that saturated with blood have healed. As I choose to put the jagged pieces back together and replenish my blood supply. This process could not have happened if I did not have an Open Loving Heart.

Our lives are so much more Peaceful and Rewarding. We can overcome much Negativity. Although sometimes this process is easier said then done.

The Dali Lama spoke of the palliative benefits of Love when he wrote, “One can Overcome the Forces of Negative Emotions, like anger and hatred, by Cultivating their Counterforce, like Love and Compassion.”

I would like to share that I was unknowingly putting myself  in a very unpleasant position (for me emotionally). Being with Very, Very Unhappy People. They exhibited emotions from anger, to disrespect for one another, and discord within all of their relationships. They possessed extremely negative energies and their general outlook was of Misery. They had no ability to acknowledge or relish in Happiness. No matter how large or small by that gift that was given by An Open Loving Heart. By the time I left, I had hoped that the Love I Spread and Shared Selflessly may not have shown outwardly. In my Loving Wisdom, I’d hoped that the Love had seeped into some dark crack or crevice that has been Closed For So Long, that it would hopefully shine a Light.

On my own personal level, I have created a warm and sacred place where My Love flows Freely.

Let your Love for Others Reign Supreme.

Let your Love guide you on to a path that is simultaneously Fulfilling and Nurturing to those whose Lives Intersect Yours.